Christian dating being friends first

13 Jul

If you are doing this knowing that it is not wise for you to become more than friends, you are playing with matches beside a gasoline can.Often when an apparently innocent friendship suddenly bursts into lustful flames, the responsible parties are stunned and bewildered.“Dating intentionally.” If you are a single Christian, it’s something that you’ve probably heard mentioned at some point, and held up as the right way to go about dating.But what does it mean, and how do you go about dating intentionally?

I tried to believe my own lie until I was gluing together a hand-made Valentine card for him and felt the urge to write “I love you.” That’s when I had to admit to myself and to him that I did not want a platonic relationship. Platonic, by the way, comes from a view held by the Greek philosopher Plato who advocated “pure, spiritual affection, subsisting between persons of the opposite sex, unmixed with carnal desires, and regarding the mind only and its excellences.” Or, more simply put, a "just friends" status with no romantic feelings. Despite the debate, it happens enough that if you want to avoid the often irrecoverable impact it has on the friendship and the awkwardness that accompanies it, here are some steps you can take to stay in the platonic relationship zone and guard yourself from the drama of a premature romantic relationship.

And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.” I know that this is a very sensitive subject to many, but God’s Word is clear on how we are to find mates for ourselves.

Genesis says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” This is not up to interpretation.

A Definition You won’t find the term in a dictionary, but I would say that intentional dating involves three basic elements: 1. With that purpose being an eventual marriage (to someone); and 3.

Being clear about that purpose (though hopefully not in a weird way).