Chastity abstinence and dating

19 Mar

There seemed to be a special connection between them that made me wonder, It started me on a quest to discover what I call "practical abstinence." All of the "true love waits" messages mean nothing if they can't be put into practice.And that seems to be where many Christians fall short. You can't jump into dating and expect that sexual temptation won't be an issue.Paul’s exhortation to women to adorn themselves with good deeds.

They met, fell in love, dated and waited until they were married to have sex.

You give clear-cut advice on physical parameters in a chaste relationship, and you write that “If you’re serious about embracing chastity, you have to become a bit of an old fuddy duddy.” You spell out situations to avoid: Drinking too much at parties, on dates, or during events out; talking too long and too late in the car; talking too long and too late anywhere; sleepovers; laying down together; kissing laying down; kissing sitting down; maybe even kissing standing up; not to mention kissing with any portion of your clothing removed. I’m just giving a list of situations that can become – or are – minefields for a couple trying to date chastely.

Now, a couple of those situations listed are “avoid at all cost” – drinking too much, clothes off.

Given current cultural trends, a faith-focused approach to love is sorely needed.

Authors Arleen Spenceley, Sarah Swafford and Jennessa Terraccino offer timely advice on God’s plan for love, with help from the saints, Scripture and even some classic stories.